Using your inner Samatha!

Hey hey bloggers! I am back the Org. Diva took a little break but now I am back with my girl Simply doing it big! Summer is here and we doing it big. Ladies ladies... Summer is not only the shortest season, but it the most vauable season of all seasons! This is the season of bikinis, shoes, dress and of course men hot,sexy, tasty men (sounds sexist, I know but what the hell!) Opening day of Sex And The City 2, I noticed something I never really noticed before, in all the seasons of watching this show; I never found myself to have an inner Samantha! Yes Yes ladies I know many of you are saying Samatha with a shocked look on your face, and why not Carrie, but ladies we all can be a Carrie, but we don't ever let out our Samantha. And when I mean let out your inner Samantha, I don't mean be a whore bag, I mean embrace that sexy kitten waiting to be let out. Ladies we really have to stop laying around waiting for our Mr. Big, and just have fun with the young hot stuff that trot around. This summer many of us cry that we aren't sexy enough to wear a bikini, we aren't thick enough to show some skin, we are to big to embrace our bodies, and that all becomes nagging, and depressive actions! I say let it all go , it's 2010 our year to be who we are, and this summer let it all out and be free. So this Summer I want you say this saying that I was thought as a teen in NYC by a few good, but crazy friends. LIVE LOVE AND EMBRACE BECAUSE THE ONLY PERSON WHO KNOWS I'M BEAUTIFUL IS ME AND I AM A BEAUTIFUL ( YOUR RACE) DIVA! So this Summer have fun and I'll see you out on the beach.

Love ya,
ORG. DIVA

Lesson Learned...

This week alone has been tragic, enlightening, and inspiring all in one. With the loss of my grandfather (R.I.P Papa), I really started to pay more attention to the things that once seemed natural to me! All in all I laughed, cried, and even screamed but I weathered the storm with many lessons learned...

Do not make someone a priority when to them you're only an option (an oldie but goodie that means more to me now then ever before)
Confide only in those that confide in you
Give only what you are given
Extend yourself only to those that will extend themselves to you
Jealousy is a disease that many are infected by and I do not have the antibiotic
No matter what anyone says or does to me it will never take away from who I am, how far i've come, and all that I have yet to accomplish
Only tell on a need to know basis
Less squares make your circle smaller

oh and last but not least

"THEY'RE ALWAYS MAD WHEN YOU'RE STYLING ON THEM"

WOOOO SAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AMEN!!!! Part 3

Thanking Ari for this one!!!!

AMEN!!!! Part 2

AMEN!!!!

Trying to MASTER this!!!!

Summer is almost here Ladies...

I'll show you how to do this son...

MY SHOE OF THE MOMENT...WAT U WANT ME TO SAY, I'M SORRY!!!

Hey hey bloggers do today I have a story for you! There have been this brother I have been dating and yesterday he truly got me mad, but surely like I tell you beautiful ladies I went about things like a lady. Yesterday I experience the factor of a hood dude, regular dude, and the nigga who just plain ain't got it. This topic was brought up by my best friend and I Giselle whom is also many reasons to my entries. Yesterday one of the men I date eventually asked me to a trip to the bahamas and because of just the random dudes I have experienced I took it to be untrue, after dening his ass and he surely going hard about it, I gave in and stated yes. He then had the nerve to ask me if I am going because it's free or because I like him! LADIES! when a man ask you a questions as dumb as this one after he begged you to go with him it is time to move on! And he became a factor of a hood dude, because plainly this same corn ball stated I was two high maintance to date because I wanted to go to the movies, and had the nerve to say he has a box office in his house! Again LADIES! never have a man offer the movies in his crib, ESPECIALLY if your not a couple because only my man will get the likes of cuddling up watching a horror film. This is what I mean by limiting, we should never just settle for no straight hood dude.

My next man is the regular dude. This dude consist of the tshirt and jeans call it a day, but is still willing to
do whatever he has too, to keep you stuck to him. There is other guy who just buy me stuff to get my attention and to keep me in mind little do he know I am not interested in him at all! LADIES if this dude buy you stuff return it! Especially if you have no form of relationship with him because of course being a stalker is not only his thing,but he will need to be placed in a mental ward because truly in his heart he is sooooo in love! This guy one guy I dated but cut short because he was needy because like that and surely a sista ran the other way. LADIES! Don't limit yourself and surely don't take nothing from him because dudes like the owning factor.


Last is my favorite the dude just don't got it! This is deticated to my baby mama Gigi who shut down all that baby mama shit and showed that women can always hold their own. Ladies if you have a baby father who ain't right by you and you surely seen never was just get on your high horse and put all those worries behind because you and your baby will be fine! Now I know there are a few girls who desperately love their wack ass bf and the nigga just ain't got it! Be like my baby mama after she pushed out the baby she lost all the weight she had, focused on her to children, and told her bf fuck off because obviously he is the same nigga who just don't got it! So for you ladies who run behind a dude who just ain't got it, you look deseperate and no one like a desperate chick! FYI if you feel this is you don't get offended it should make you stronger. Ladies look at these men and go and focus on yourself because in life if your Independent like me and simply tash b and even Gigi and let dudes like these go.

CHECKING...

THE FRONT DESK EACH DAY TO SEE IF MY PACKAGE HAS ARRIVED...

IT'S GOING TO BE ONE HOT SUMMER!!!!!

Classic...

Kim Circa 2008...love the clean look of a white suit! Perfection!

I'll show you how to do this son...

Brooch for flare...why not?!

3 Months 3 weeks and 2 days...

And counting...however, there is no rush, flat abs is a must!!!!!

I'll show you how to do this son...

Mr. right and Mr. right now

Hello ladies now this is a real reader. Friday, I found myself on a date in a situation of the Mr. right and Mr. right now. I went on a date with a real cool guy that showed me mister right does exist! Last night while talking to this awesome and yet very different man I found out that the nice guys do end last, and that we as ladies rush into situations with what I call the "bigger and better" in our minds. When talking to him Friday, I noticed he confided in me with a lot about himself not only made me respect him more, but made me like him a little more. He basically went from a quick hook up, to being Mr. wow. But now ladies, don't fall in love to quick it was just a date; I did not see marriage, moving in , or children at all! So when I brought this up to simply tash b it was a shocker to her as it was to I, and at that moment she stated words that I think every lady should here "it's sad to see how these girls (you) run around and do themselves instead of waiting for right man." (not the exact words, but close lol). When talking to this guy, I learned that chasing a dude, running behind one, or even trying to have him be your puppet is not the RIGHT way! We look in to many things and see that the man we want is not the man we have, but he should be the man that you embrace. Today many of us young professional (like simply and I) we look for the Renaissance man. The renaissance man is the thinker, provider, and the romantic; yes we all wish to have this man but ladies!!!!! he does not exist!!!! The Renaissance man is created.

Today after having a beautiful lunch with Tash B. I seen a home girl on facebook. She is married, with a child (who is not her husband's), she has no education past high school, and last; her man lives in a whole different place and he has a child with another girl! See now I am not saying that the situation is bad, but it works for her. I say this every time I see a friend in a horrible situation and I tell you, LADIES STOP LIMITING YOURSELVES! We look at ourselves in the mirror every morning and catch ourselves playing the I REFUSE! game. Stop sayig I refuse this or that, but that I will try this or that. Ladies to limit yourself is just a set up, not to the good life, but to the low life.

Many of my family members, friends, and yes parents! judge me about being single, but what I do ignore it. I never seem to make myself feel sour about being single I actually enjoy it , as Samantha (sitc) would say " why be stuck with one man, when you can try them all" and that's what I decided to do try them all, and when I mean them all I mean men of all ages, races, and styles. I have a preference and in due time if we are meant to be together he will transition in to the man I held down, respected, and fell in love with. Not the man I created.


We think in life that all we have to do which is get a man, build the man we want him to be, and voila la hombre de dreams appears! right! nope wrong. When you build a man you build a man for another woman. When you have a man just do the three obvious things; never seem available, never call him to many times, and always show him you have options; as much as a brother will tell you he hates the chase, girl he really appreciates it. A man never continues with a female with avaiblitity, and if he does he is a control freak! I always find myself to be very outspoken, and maybe a lot of "boys" might feel I am doing to much, but a "man" will see what is wrong about him and try to change for the better of the relationship.

Ladies to complete this I say Live Love and Louboutins because your way of life is the only way you can be proud of whom you are.

SATC2 TRAILER-EXTENDED VERSION

PATIENTLY WAITING!!!!

COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF!!!!

HATERS ARE ESSENTIAL!!!!

Those that pray on my downfall or love to hear negativity you are the ones I hold dearest to my heart because it is you that remind me each day of how far I've come and how blessed I am!!!!

HATERS I NEED YOU!!!! YOU MOTIVATE ME!!!! WITHOUT YOU I WOULDN'T BE WHERE I AM!!!!!

good friend, bad friend, and straight plain ole hater

To all my bbf I love ya'll especially you tash

Let's shop till we drop!

Ok ladies it is spring time! We have found awesome styles, and awesome spots. My fave place in the NYC is Soho. Soho is the land of sale, style, and originality! A few spots I suggest for you college girls with a budget mystique, forever 21, H&M, and sample boutiques. For my career woman; Zara, Ann Taylor, and H&M also (career section). And last, for you spunky girls with a lil of everything I suggest the side walk sales! They have very crafty people who make items by hand that can complete your outfits!

Here are a few samples....

Rethinking Life, Marriage, and Yourself

Today's entry is dedicated to those whom thought that they couldn't make it, but by their own and God's will, did! The other day Tash B and I went to see Why Did I Get Married Too?(the sequel to Why did I get Married?), and funny enough this movie inspired my entry today on rethinking marriage. I know you might be thinking, "what about life and myself?"" well good question because those two parts were inspired by friends (Life), and myself(yourself). Lets start with the category of Life. Life means( to relate to a being), which in my sense means to relate to everything around you and embrace it! Your life is not a toy to be played with, but should be a diamond that you carefully take care of, and scarifie to no one, but God (for those who believe). I look at my life and look at all the obstacles I been through, all the scarifies I made, and all the goals I accomplished, and than said to myself "Thank You God for making me experience another day". Sometimes in life, we complain about something as little as not having our own apartment (example of me), but little do we think of those people that have to work three jobs just to maintain the rent next month. I also have heard people complain about a little headache they can take aspirin for, but little do they know there are people out there on dialysis waiting for a transplant, and still wake up every morning to go to work an 8 hour shift. People, people, people especially you ladies, lets not waste life on worrying about the little things; such as, clothing, make-up, and OMG! men. We surely have more to life than that. Now you maybe wondering what about the "marriage" part... well i was getting to that. Marriage (a bond that brings two families together as one); when watching the movie I observed it from not a viewers eyes, but a psych majors eyes. There were plenty of metaphors and similes that in the movie; that made me observe that marriage or a relationship, as Tash B stated is a job within itself. Sometimes, I sit and daydream what will it be to be married, and than wake the hell up.Marriage or relationship should not be played with, but respected and appreciate by both parties. Remember it is a 50/50 or as I like 80/20(the man is known to be the provider in every way), but ladies we can always pick up the slack to and build our men sometimes. The matter of the message is though; that life is a blessing and we should thank God for every morning we wake, and that marriage is a union that brings not a family, but a couple together to embrace each other. I ask of you ladies follow these simple words, and you will see you and only you can embrace your own future.

Content

It seems as though when single women hit a certain age it's almost as if they have been given a time stamp on their life. I can admit that I too have been guilty of this, but as time has progressed I have realized that it truly isn't THAT serious!!! I have been able to see both sides of the spectrum and can honestly say that I enjoy being single and even question whether or not being married and having kids is something that is even important to me anymore. Relationships are like a second job!! It takes A LOT of work and although it can bring happiness it also has its sad moments as well. The biggest plight is learning to TRUST that person and that's something that I do not have an easy time doing. Relationships carry many expectations that people tend to not understand! So in saying all that I find that for now it's much easier to just lay low and enjoy the freedom. Who knows my outlook may change but for now it's all about trips, food, and fun!!! Oh yeah and shopping lol!

Top down approved!!!

OK GO HEAD TEAIRRA....I for one know those low profiles are costly!!!!!

This will for sure be blaring with my top down this summer...ladies get familiar!!!!!

10 Dating Rules to Help Single Gals Stay Sane

Okay ladies it is a must that you copy this address below and insert into your site thingy...whatever it's called!!!

This article has to be the most insightful guide to being single that I have read in a looooong time!!!

DO IT NOW!!!!!

http://www.bvonlove.com/2010/03/23/dating-rules-for-single-women/

Side Chicks

While cruising clutch mag I came across a very interesting article "The OFFICIAL Official Rules for Side Chicks". The article outlined three rules:

1) Don’t be one.

2) Don’t be one.

3) No really, honey…don’t be one.

I totally agree with ALL three however there is an exception to the rule and that is not KNOWING you're the side chick!!!!

Check out the article

http://clutchmagonline.com/lifeculture/feature/the-official-official-rules-for-side-chicks/

Dating and just plain ole' hanging out

Ladies.... Today's posting is about to things we tend to confuse ourselves with dating and just some good ole' hanging out. This topic was brought up by a friend of mine the other day. One day while talking and eating we came up with the concept of just hanging out when I asked him why don't you ever claim to go on a date with a girl he stated "because when you date, you are the other party feels that they are obligated to something with the other person"(e.g. men wanting sex, and women wanting a relationship). Than I asked him so what is considered hanging out, and he stated "that is when and the other person are just talking and there is no obligation to anything." After we finished "Hanging out " I really began to think of what my friend said about just that and I realized that most of the time I went out with guys and we established a date that it was an "obligation", but the reality was that only one person was looking for an "obligation" wasn't me. My statement to all my beautiful single and non-single divas a man is always oligated to something, but little do they know that we are the X-factor and the control of everything, we only make them obligated to something when we present ourselves that way, so ladies, ladies, ladies lets make this a hang out session, and when we feel obligated to becomes dating.

signing out ....
Org. Diva

QUANTITY VS QUALITY

So yesterday I accompanied a good friend of mine on a shopping "extravaganza"!! My day started with me concentrating on shoes and sheets and it turned into anything that caught my eye. I had a GREAT time and it was the most fun I had in a while! We laughed and even cried (I tripped up the stairs and stubbed my big toe...OUCH)!!! At dinner, we had a very insightful conversation...Quantity over Quality!!!!

I truly believe in investment pieces, pieces that will last! It doesn't matter if you have one pair of shoes or one handbag as long as that one item will stand the test of time. When splurging be aware of the following:

1. Is it a trendy piece? I suggest not investing in trendy pieces because as you all may know trends come and go

2.Get a neutral color that you can wear with anything and everything.

3.Don't be afraid to spend more money. If you wear it everyday for the next year or two the price per day will equal less than the price of a grande pike roast. For example: If you spend $1200 on a bag and you wear it everyday for two years (trust me it will last that long) that's only $1.64 cents a day.

I have been blessed to say that in my 13 years of wearing heels I have yet to experience a malfunction (breaking a heel) yes i've had to get the heels done (before the nail shows) a few times but any woman knows that's essential, I mean it's only four bucks for crying out loud!

What do you ladies think? Quantity or Quality?

Vacations for Divas

Hey Divas looking for quick getaway! Well look no further for the town of cuba, haiti, and Jamaica all in one beautiful M.I.A and not for Memorial day weekend but for that exciting weekend where you can get a beautiful tan, party night till day, and meet some very sexy shoes ;-) we are evening welcoming the Kardashins and Bad Girls club there sooooo like Big Willy said ....Welcome to Miami!

Shoe Language !!!!!

Hey fans know u missed me and Tasha B, but of course when your a lady with a single life there is nothing more fun to do than explore the possibilities of life, and what those you ask? Well in the shoe language it's called Choo, Vuitton, and Mr. Cole. this spring I created a new language called shoe language. Shoe Language+ a language that describes the level of sexy you see in a person that is trying to pursue you, FYI you can also claim yourself in shoe language. For example, I describe myself as a Louboutin (new, fresh, and hard to get); Ms. Tash I would describe as a Vuitton ( Vintage, fashionable, and the original Diva of all young Divas). See I created language while talking to a pursuer (not a real word) on my cell phone. While speaking to him I notice not only was he a boring, and nonchalant man he was an American Eagle (the most high priced shoe in Payless, but no way do I shoe in there!) he just was not on my level and soooo not for me. Another pursuer I noticed was what I call the Vuitton/Kors remix he was very vintage and extraordinary, but with a Miami touch. He had it all sex appeal, older, and very intelligent. And that's one man I knew to keep in touch with. But ladies, let me not be your guide on dating, but your advisor whether you like Choos/Vuitton like me and Ms. B or Airmax/Pastry like your average around the way girl. Remember men are like shoes if you feel its not the right if go back for your refund instead of having it in your closet collecting dust. FYI shoes are an accessory always to be showed 2X's , and if your man isn't one hell time to do some spring cleaning!

EFFORTLESS STYLE!!!

IT'S OK KIMMY, I DIDN'T LIKE REGGIE FOR YOU ANYWAY!!!

Pics via Gettyimages, Kimkardashianfan.net

Haute

Peep the Pigalles...

Walmart oh how I love theeeeeee

Oh and JCpenny too (lol)

Currently in my cart...

INSPIRATION

I HAVE DECIDED TO FOCUS ON ZEBRA PRINTS, BROWN WITH AQUA SPLASHES, GOLD (FOR OPULENCE) AND SHADES OF CREAM (BEIGE OFF WHITE) CHECK OUT MY INSPIRATION BOARD!

Pics courtesy of decorpad.com

BEEN GONE FOR A MINUTE NOW I'M BACK WITH THE JUMPOFF...

OK PEOPLE I'M BACCCCCK!!!!

So much has been going on. I'm in the middle of putting the finishing touches on my place, planning a housewarming, and a pajama party, all while trying to keep up at work, plan a weekend getaway with the bestie, get right and tight for the summer (shhh) and gather my spring/summer look! phew, that was so a run-on sentence but that best describes what has been going on!!

Stay Tuned!

Hello Single Life!

Today blog is dedicated to the lovely single ladies not only of the Big Shoe (my slogan of NYC), but all across the ocean and seas. Single -unmarried or unattached, now my definition; Single - happy, exciting, and experience. Today a lot of us especially the female species , believe that if we are not in a relationship by 25 it's a mid life crisis or that something is wrong with us, and if not married by 30 it's the end of the world. We watch shows like Girlfriends, Sex in the City, and The Hills , and see that being in our mid 20's and 30's that more women are successful, beautiful, and more opinionated. Ladies, wake up; this is 2010 we don't need a man to fulfill us just to be our partner in crime. Last week, Tasha B and myself were both watching a sermon by Joel Olsen and he referred to us to learn to patiently wait. As a 25 year old woman, I have come to realize that even though I am still young!, but I am still getting older?! I look at my challenges with men is just a way for me to breakdown the men I been with, and analzye them to learn what I like and don't like. So all you lovely ladies that feel like it's the end of the world because your single; EMBRACE! SHOP! and SEEK! prince charming is only a few minutes away, but a few months and probably years from being mr. right! So take your time and enjoy the single life signing out !

Da Org. DIVA

highs and Lows- Dinner Date

Sleeveless silk draped jumpsuit- Bebe

Chanel 2.55 (sorry but it's my bag of the moment)

Yves Saint Laurent Tribute too pump

Gold bangles- Forever 21

Pearl/Gold bead bracelet cluster - Bebe

Be Prepared to go from day to night in this ensemble. Perfect for a date with that special someone or dinner with the girls...Enjoy!

Highs and Lows- Nightlife

Leopard print Dress-Asos The shoulder pads on this dress take it from body conscious to trendy

Chanel 2.55

Louboutin Pigalle

Bracelets-Forever 21

Cocktail ring- bebe

Please be sure to pull your hair back into a sleek bun (high or low will do) with a simple pair of studs and you are ready to hit the clubs with the girls...Drink Responsibly!